When I take time to develop a friendship, the kind that has the freedom for one friend to call another when anything goes wrong, or when help is needed, I am forging a relationship that is unique and worth nurturing. I can honestly tell you that I am one that has a thick ice coating in my heart, am not so easy to make friends, may be a usual 'Hi' when I meet a new person and that doesn't register in my book of friends. Call me whatever you think I am, unfriendly, stuck-up, proud..but once I find the right chemistry in a friend I will stay with him/her through the end of life. Put simply the friends I have here are friends that I can interact and connect on various levels (humour, politics, religion, interests or even circumstances)
But there are times when I find myself rubbing people on the wrong way which is causing me a lot of stress. Friends disagree. Imagine a world where everyone thought, behaved and acted just like you. (only in your dreams!) But, in reality, as unlikely as it sounds, you'll go to bed one night and feel badly that harsh words were volleyed back and forth between the two of you. I believe that managing conflict and stress will become a necessity, and that relationship will require immediate attention. While we cannot change our personality or that of our friend, we might pick up some pointers by watching those who come by diplomacy naturally. Listen to the tone of voice or words they choose. creating peace again is not easy, and some inward thinking is a good start. But what causes a friendship to blast into oblivion?
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