Sunday, April 25, 2010

Why we love who we love?

Love is a universal word commonly used to show affection for someone that touches our hearts. It is that beautiful feelings that keep stirring deep inside us which makes our world go round. It keeps our mind occupied every minute thinking of that someone special who might not be within our reach at the material time but visualizing his/her presence in our daily life makes everyday beautiful and inspiring.

Have you ever seen a married couple who at a glance seem unfit for each other yet they are both happy with each other. And a married couple I knew stayed together for years are often at loggerheads but live together out of respect for the vows they signed in church. This is what I call marriage based on convenience rather than LOVE. I believe marriage based on true love are rich and meaningful compared to plastic love. A love on rebound which are mistakenly taken as love is hollow and filled with regrets later in life.

Many of us are unconsciously drawn to a person like the pull of a supernatural force which slowly develop into a strong love. What mysterious force drives us into the arms of one person, while pushing us away from another who might appear equally desirable to any unbiased observer? What good qualities did you see in your partner that draw you to him and commit yourself for life with him/her?

7 comments:

  1. Very very mysterious word in the world is love. From the very beginning of the life start the first instinct of living being grown in it is the Love. .....I think. Love is the driving force that tender us to attain the desire to live. We feel the tendency to live just because of love. But the word love can't be summarize in the affection between the feeling of two teenage of opposite gender feelings. I don't deny that that is not Love. That is to love but only that feeling is love but the meaning of love is too broad that if we bounded love just in teenage dating talk then it will be our misinterpretation about love. You fall in all in life. You can love your life. You can love you job. You can love your county. You cam love mylot. You can love your mylot friend. .......so . You can enormous use of love. But it never be ended. Each and every thing fall short and be ended after use. But magic power of the love is that you can't end up love using it. Love never be ended but be increased and increased. Love has now limit. Like the sky ..... Like the sea...Endless love is only is the basic force of life. I can't even imagine a world without love.

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  2. Hi! The article is so beautiful! Even though I haven't have a gilfriend, I want to talk about that with you, my good friend!
    I think I love somebody because of her kind-hearted or passion or beautiful or talent! And the girl may be my girlfriend! But her may be not my wife! In other word, I think the love perhaps doesn't develop into marriage!
    the wife what I need is chaste! No matter her appearance or background or education! Act as a man and husband, I think I could bear her making trouble out of nothing if her looks after my family well!
    This what I want to talk, and perhaps you could give me some advise about the love and marriage!

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  3. Hi, zandi. What you've posted is not a discussion, but rather a prose which defines love in so accurate a way. Yes, you're right. We all have different ways of thinking and doing things as we're from different countries, but there is one thing that we have in common, and that is love. I believe everyone falls in love with a particular person who seems to be made for him/her. Perhaps we don't really feel that way the first moment we meet that special person, but as we get to know him/her day by day, we may finally realize that he/she is what we are looking for. It's a kind of feeling that urges you to love that speical person. At least this is what I feel for my boyfriend. I used to be in relationship with other two guys before I met my present boyfriend. They were all great but I kept thinking that there was something wrong between us. I couldn't understand him and he couldn't understand me. It's like we couldn't communicate mentally and emotionally. Until I met my third boyfriend, I did have the feeling that I'm designed for him. He's not handsome, nor romantic, but he just understands what I need and can make me laugh when I'm down. I think that's enough. We don't have to ask for more from our lovers.
    There are many relationships that base on money. Personally, I don't think love can be found through money. Well, perhaps someone do not think so.

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  4. To love, for me, is an act of the will. A decision to care for a person and seek his well being. It can be accompanied by ecstatic emotions and maybe less ecstatic, depending on the person's emotional make up. Poets define and explain love in many beautiful ways but at the end of the day when our emotions are down, love, because it is a decision on our part, remains. My emotion varies from time to time. When I am sick, terribly tired or facing difficult problems I may not feel the "the moment suspended in time love" but deep inside me, nothing has changed with regards to the depth of my love to the one I love most.

    That being said, the feeling that accompany love, is magical. As if the world stood still and you still want to go on dancing even after the music has stopped. It can't be helped being creatures with emotions, but true love is more than just emotions.

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  5. Why indeed?

    Love to me is illogical and unexpected. I don’t think you can ever look for it although there are so many people out there who do.
    Love is like a chemical reaction between to people and cannot generally be explained.

    We all have prerequisites of what we like in a mate and certainly some of the things on our list may be important deal breakers but I really think that when it comes to falling in love one may as well throw away the list because it happens, it surprises, it is impractical, completely beyond our control and beautiful!

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  6. all i'm going to say on the subject since both my marriages failed that there is nothing nicer than being married when everything is going good but it sure can be hell when it's not.

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  7. asides from the unditional love he offers...his so being thoughtful, sweet, caring, and we had lots in common and if we had problems and we need to discuss it we talk about it calmly....whats the best we avoid and dnt like argues....

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